Comments for Biggest Girl In The Ballroom http://dancingwithstefanie.com Ballroom Dancing, Weight Loss, Inspiration, Community Thu, 13 Jun 2013 22:31:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by caraannewilliams http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2833 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 22:31:25 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2833 This captured so much of what I’ve been feeling this week. The frustration, the anger, the self-hate, the desperation. It’s so courageous of you to share this with us.

I don’t want to go against your nutritionist, who is clearly a medical professional, but I second legalballerina in asking about the dairy and such. If there is water weight from “inflammation” what’s causing the inflammation. Dairy or gluten or sugar or too much protein are common culprits, but (disclaimer) I took the _Eat to Live_ approach to dieting. That inflammation may be something to talk about with the nutritionist.

And finally, 15 pounds is a huge accomplishment. Try to be proud of how far you’ve come.

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by Paragon2Pieces http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2830 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:45:36 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2830 Hope things are looking up since you wrote this post. Sending good vibes your way.

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by alcpaws http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2809 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 16:45:45 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2809 Don’t give up Steph. Your nutritionist is right. I abused my body for years with diet pills, starvation and bad food.
Last year I started dancing (I’m int Bronze now) I learned to love my body again and realized I do have control over it in so many beautiful ways!
At some point I realized I needed fuel to support my dancing and started to feed my body. Nothing happened for a few months but I love to dance so I ate and then one day my body learned to trust me. It believed I wasn’t going to starve it and out of the clear blue I just started to lose weight.
My body and I have a healthy relationship now. I promise to consume the right amount of fuel to support my daily activities and it in turn is letting go of its adipose reserve. We trust each other.
Don’t give up Steph and love your body it’s the only one you will ever have.

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by legalballerina http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2806 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 02:33:22 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2806 Dieting is different for everyone. What works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for others. My husband, for example, struggles to lose weight. Then there is me; I can lose weight easily just by cutting out certain foods.

Questions for you: do you east dairy? How much water are you drinking every day? How much processed foods are you consuming in a day(ex. Bread, cereal, lean cuisines, etc).

My husband wants me to tell you, “focus on the process. The results will come”. He is right – Rome was not built in a day. It took me years to build my body and make it the machine it is today. Give yourself time; you will achieve your goal. There is no doubt.

Keep your head up girl. We are all on your side and are very proud of what you are getting to achieve! ;)

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by bgballroom http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2804 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:26:42 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2804 Wow – Stef, the first section of this post is like wading through chest deep mud! Your writing is very evocative. Very.

Then when you started to talk about your lesson with Ivan, I thought you would be wanting to just go through the motions and have a little respite from the mud pit and maybe a sympathetic shoulder to cry on. But instead you found yourself a brilliant, shining, magnificent diamond! What a gift to know how to reach down deep when you are in the midst of agony and find the will and life force to bring out the outrageously beautiful dancer we all know you are. I love it when I watch a couple dance and feel a little twinge that I am intruding on a very private moment. It sounds like you had a little of that action going on! Ooh la la indeed.

Eat the butter. Pretend it is medicine and hate it if you have to but keep at it for at least a month. Chele sounds like she knows what she is doing.

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by Rachel http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2803 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:27:19 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2803 I feel for you. I am also struggling with the weight, and the body image issues that go with it. You are working so much harder than I am, so I don’t have much room to complain. Sometimes I wonder if there is some psychological aspect that aim not addressing, but I really think that my problem is that I like to eat unhealthy food a lot more than I like to exercise. I’m rooting for you, because you deserve to feel good about everything you have accomplished, and will accomplish. You really inspire me to keep trying, so much so that I have added Salsa to the Argentine Tango, and I am considering some other dances, as well. I wish it could be easier for us both! It has to get better!

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by stephiesbeadsandbaubles.com http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2802 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:47:22 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2802 I feel for you. I have really had a hard time over the years losing no matter what I do. I have heard that sometimes eating more is the answer and you have tried the other way, so why not give it a good try . I never thought about what your nutrionist said about your body not trusting you after years of not getting enough nutriants, wow.
I will be sending positive thoughts your way. Don’t you give up, you will get there and you will get that body you dream of !! I am on that journey as well. 255 pounds, twice what I should weight and sometimes feeling I will never get there. I will, and so will you as long as we never give up. Thank you for sharing your story and your strugglles. I am very inspired with your hard work !!
You have your dancing and as long as you keep dancing and dreaming your will see your dreams come true !!
I wish you only the best and look forward to seeing you get to those goals one day soon !!

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by Pam http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2801 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:19:08 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2801 Steph;

I’ve been lurking on your blog for a while, and this post made me want to (need to) comment. It sucks. I can’t say anything that will make it not suck, but you picked your team for a reason. They’re there because what you were doing – starving yourself – wasn’t working. Trust them and give it a try. Believe in that instinct that led you to them!

People out there are rooting for you!

]]> Comment on My Body, The Betrayer by sweetbabymeg http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/08/my-body-the-betrayer/#comment-2800 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:17:27 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2890#comment-2800 My gym did a fat loss diet program and it included eating tons of protien. To the point where most of the participants were literally gagging at the thought of eating. But your nutritionist is right, there is science behind it. The average person that did the Fat loss program lost 10 pounds in 30 days by sticking to it. Sometimes for us curvy gals it is difficult to train our brains that eating more is better – or even these changes we are doing is better. We have convinced ourselves that not eating is the way to go ( at least I have, lol) It just doesn’t make sense, but somehow it works. You will get there! Don’t give up!

]]> Comment on I Should Be In Bed Right Now by loveablestef http://dancingwithstefanie.com/2013/06/05/i-should-be-in-bed-right-now/#comment-2790 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 03:59:10 +0000 http://dancingwithstefanie.com/?p=2872#comment-2790 Well thank you. That was really kind of you to write! I just found your blog and it is entertaining! I see you are in VA…and no NDCA events in the near future…but, if you get out there again after the car and house are cared for, I sure hope we meet! I have a redhead dancing friend who is like you and obsessed with the bling! I can’t wait to read more about your adventures. Thanks for adding my blog to your blog roll, I will add yours to mine as well. Thanks again for taking the time to send me those kind words.

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