So a little over a year ago I started dancing with this crazy Bulgarian named Ivan. And a little over a year ago, I had so much to say about it to my husband that his eyes would glaze over. I discovered another outlet and I began writing this blog.
One of my first posts very surprisingly went semi-viral and it convinced me to stick with this blog thing, that maybe, just maybe, I had something valuable to say and share about my dancing life experiences.
A little known fact is that, shortly after I began the blog, I also discovered this amazing website called Dance Advantage. Around that time I saw that they had a dance blog contest and I think, though I could be mistaken, that it was through this contest that I discovered this entertaining, funny blog called Adult Beginner that had won the contest. Well, I’ve continued to follow AB because it is seriously hilarious, but back then I vowed to myself that I’d put in for this contest in the following year 1) because it was so cool and 2) because it led me to other great dance blogs that I still continue to enjoy and 3) it hooked me up to DA which has all sorts of great dance-related info and I follow on Twitter.
So, not wanting to make bad on my promise to myself, here is me entering the contest.
The deal is this, I need comments on THIS blog post to even be considered for the second round. The blogs with the most comments get to move forward. There are many categories – I’m entering under “Recreational Dancer.”
But you know me, and I can’t write a blog post this short so I thought I’d kind of reflect on where I was a year ago, seeing as it is the new year and all. It also seems apropos since it was a year ago that I thought about entering this contest.
So I looked up the post on my blog that was almost exactly a year from today. It turns out, the post was mostly about confidence – probably one of the main themes I’ve broached on this blog o’mine. In it, Ivan was doing what he does best, pulling out the part of me that wants to express myself, the part of me that I choke and hide, the part of me that makes me a performer. A particular portion stood out for me, though. Ivan had asked me how soon it would be until we were able to do that famous lift from “Dirty Dancing,” which, in my mind, the answer is, like, never….but anyways…..
He’s [Ivan] fearless, though, and doesn’t have my particular flavor of mental baggage that creates limitations in my mind. I’ve seen him toss around a 70-year-old woman, one of his students, in the Hustle.
And don’t get me wrong, I have big dreams when it comes to dancing. In my head I have all sorts of fantasies about how I’m going to look, that I’m going to win some scholarship competitions, that I’m going to eventually get to dance in open heats in the night sessions when the lights are low and the ballroom is buzzing. But all that feels like a fairy tale – things I generally do not talk about for fear that others will think me mad but that are in my heart and that I desire greatly.
But today is not the day to attempt this particular trick. Just standing still and preparing to move have been a challenge. But ultimately I feel encouraged by Ivan’s belief in me. Sometimes I think he believes in me more than I do. That’s why he endlessly crams my brain full of details. That’s why he has me do the same thing over and over and over.
And one day I’m going to believe in myself this much. One day, if I stick with it, and work hard, and practice, and sweat, then one day I will get to maybe play out in real life some of those fantasies in my head. And what an amazing feeling that will be.
But here’s the thing. Looking back from where I was to where I am, though I may not be where I’d ultimately like to be, I do believe that I’ve gained some confidence and belief in myself. I do believe that what I deeply desire is, in fact, possible for me…and that, in and of itself, is a huge win. I believe that I could dance in open heats in night sessions, and I have already danced in two scholarship rounds. Though I earned poor results, entering those scholarships was the first step to actually placing well in one. I do now begin to believe that I will get to play out in real life these fantasies in my head…they are becoming more of a reality with each practice and lesson, with each day I stick to my diet, with each coaching or dance camp and competition I attend.
Maybe I haven’t realized these things just yet (or ever), and maybe I still struggle with believing in myself, but truthfully I feel that I’m closer today than I was a year ago. And, I’m committed. Like damn skippy!
When it comes down to it, I’m proud of myself for the advances I have made, and I’m ready to dig in and work to improve my shortcomings. I’m motivated, and boy does that feel good. It’s funny because at the end of the post from a year ago I included a link to a video about pushing that extra bit to make the difference between good and great and now, in a year’s time, I find myself once again motivated by a quote to push myself harder and more profoundly (as in my last post).
Well, anyways, I felt confident enough to share this photo with the Facebook world and that’s a pretty good thing, I’d say.
Like, I still see the imperfections (oh, trust me, I do!)…but I’m still willing to put it out there anyways and say, “This is me. Here I am.” That makes me feel like I am a courageous person, and a person with courage like that can go far in this world….they could probably even dance in open heats at night and place well in scholarships. They could probably even shed 100 pounds.
So here’s to me believing in myself and what is possible in the coming year.
What’s possible for you?
And now, since this is my entry into the Dance Advantage contest and all, here is is where I ask (*beg*) you to please make a comment on THIS post so that I might possibly move forward to the next round of competition. Please consider sharing a link to this post so I might accrue more comments if you’ve been moved by what you’ve found here, or have gained any value from the blog. I have until January 22nd to garner as much support (i.e. comments) as possible.
As always, I’m grateful. Thanks for your support, whatever it looks like!